Whose Life that I Live In?

You know, long time ago, I always think that I'll married later on. Keep catching the dreams and work position (well, increasing the salary to be honest), were my main thought and objectives. I have to be better. To live better. Enjoying my own life and fulfilling the needs, especially for my mom.

I did always have close boy friend. I didnt really into relationship thou, even I did hope with someone, but it always end up on friendship. Eventhough I will always only focusing on that person at that time. Lol

You know, what people said that you usually end up with person whom you tell your love stories, well it's true. Eventhough I knew my husband --yeah, call him husband already, cieh :)), for like years ago. I never even really care about him. As I only knew he's closed with a lot of girl friends, and even he already had girlfriend when we met again after years. In which, I didnt even care with whom or how long it was and only knew it from my friends when they gossiping--since I also have someone close to, I just didnt care about him at all.

I didnt even know how or when these actually started. For at first, for like months I didnt know what his acted actually meant to, or even didnt realized that he actually already broken up --well, at first I also didnt realized he also being closed with some other women at the same time when he tried to get closer with me (well, boys #rollingeyes).

I never be easy on him. Even until now he still feel that way (lol, sorry). So when mostly the women that tried to get him and his attention, maybe for him I did play hard to get. So rather that only me whom tried to catch him, we both did the work. A year only for approaching time, we finally get into relationship, which for months, quite random. Lol

I never begging him to stay. Even sometimes I rarely contacted him. Other times when he said he's busy, I'd prefer went with my friends (either girl or boy), went to gym, even I still met with person I closed with before him --especially when he also met with his "bestfriend". And yet, my rule is simple, you wanna be with me, then you should acted and tried for it. Since I do believe in action-reaction.

So when he finally proposed me after suprisingly less than a year we're in relationship, I'm not directly said yes. Since I didnt really into that thing, I never begged him or asked him to marry me. I even questioning him about marriage things months before we're into relationship.

Especially at that time I knew some girls still tried to catch him, even one of them desperately asked him to marry her. And she did annoy me for some times, neverending missed calls and messages, even ever said to him she wanna met me to beg and talk as woman to woman, so she thought I'd finally gave him to her. Well, girl, if you read this, you should know that lucky you, We never met. At first, he's human being who has his own heart and mind. He chose what he wanted. Not as easily as I could handed it over to you, he's not a dead unliving thing.
And secondly, I'm not that any typical of girl you thought I would be. You're lucky only dealed with him, even you thought he harshed. Your choice, your acted, your mistakes, your problems, your consequences. IDGAF ;)

Well, I ended up said yes. After all these time and how hard he tried.
And here I'm now. At the beginning of my 3-ish age, I married with someone whom I never thought before.
Living as his wife, with all ups and down. Laughs and tears, even sometimes my eager to kick him as hard as I wanna hug him.
While now, we're expecting our first child.

So whose live I'm living in?
I always thought that Maybe this's the life that other woman once ever dreamed of.
While for me, the live what I never thought I would live.
But I always tried to believe, this's what God best plan for me. The right things will fall at the right time.
And we will just walk through it.
Cause sometimes, life is better to be unexpected.
As the best is yet to come.

Marriage : CHECK ✔

So, on the last April Mop, I finally getting married with my not so long called boyfriend, but long called friend-nemy.

Why 1st April? Well, first of all we didn't do any Javanese Traditional calculation to know when's the "good day"for us to get married. It's Sunday and right after long weekend. And also because Sean once said he wanted it before Ramadhan. And as for me, I found life is kinda funny. Like I ever said that I never thought before would getting married this fast, especially with him.

We didnt do any pre-wedding photos sessions, we're mostly used the photos from our previous trips. Since he also the type of man who hardly can have natural expressions so better not than I get upset on that.

So back to the marriage plan, so here's the list of what you need to check before planning for marriage:

 ✔ Intention.

You cant get married without have any intention to do it. Especially to overcome problems that will follow.

✔ The Partner
Make sure you have the partner as the Groom/Bride. 

Well, you cant do the marriage alone right?lol

✔ Budget.

You should set the Max of the budget. It would be over that your plan, I guarantee you that, but will not too far from your max. And the most important thing is, never hope too much that you will get it back. And make sure that for everything you count in the catering, it should be doubled

✔ Some people might said it should be the date, but what I'd say it should be the Venue. 

Finding the available place as the venue is hard, even harder to find the one that fit in your concept (and hardest to fit in budget especially). 

✔ The Date.

After finding the venue, the hardest thing to do is finding the available date. You can find the available venue, but you don't like it. Or you can find the right place, without the right price.

✔ Your Wedding Concept.

This also including your decoration. Indoor, or outdoor?

Will you do Traditional wedding or National, or even International?

Will you do the traditional ritual or just Akad Nikah or the Blessing?

✔ Invitation List

Make sure whether you want to invite your ex(es) or not. lol
✔ Honeymoon plan
Since along the way to the W-Day will be full of fight and turn your love life upside down, planning about your honeymoon will at least distract your stress since you have holiday coming up

Here're some photos of our Big Day.

The last photo was a bonus. Thanks for coming. Lol

For me, the Marriage was not the end but the beginning of another new Journey, somehow, will be harder than before. Especially since I never get easy to agree, especially with him. 

New adjustment in here and there

New life and status

Well, at least I will be free from question: When will you get married?

And welcoming the new question: When you will have a baby?

Whatever,

Human oh human.

And if you asking me, I'd rather have another year of "halal" relationship first.

Or at least that what I thought.

Ja Ne

2017 fast forward

Since this is already first month of 2018, I just want to do lil bit of flashback for the previous year, 2017. Well, actually last year for me was quite,, random. Lot of unpredictable things happened.. Things that I havent thought about previously.

Let's started..

January started with me accompany Sean taking his diving license in one of Resort Island in Thousand Island, Jakarta, called Sepa Island. Since January is within the raining season so totally got bad weather there. Storm and cloudy all the time. Mostly am just sleeping while waiting him to do some course for the license, lil bit of beach walking and snorkeling. And somehow after that I was thinking to get own my license. lol

Then suddenly, I won Instax on one of media gathering. Woohoo

After that for couple of months I used instax, like, alot.

And last but not least, someone just got moved to the new work place. Like my friend's said, my prayer was coming true. Hahaha

On February, Sean found a new habit, sleeping at my home.lol

Also in this's the month when one of Sean's friend, Lintang, engaged.

At the end of month, we're went to Solo for one of my best friend wedding, Galing. We never know who'll be our life partner, wont we. He was married his first ex girlfriend that previously already married but then divorce. Amazingly he now can be a real responsible man. Proud of you..

After that, followed by (Sean's) family trip to Singapore where we're playing like a tourist there, since we went to usual tourist attraction in Singapore.

And yes, this's the first time for me to go to Singapore for a vacation trip, usually I went to Singapore either only for transit or for working. 

We started the March on the last day of our trip in Singapore, which ending up I was sicked during the flight back and got flu for couple of weeks after that. Bad weather and someone just transferred his cold to me. *rolling eyes*

(Post Link: Get Lost in Singapore)

Next event in this month was Lintang wedding. Some funny things about her wedding; they're using Javanese traditional wedding outfit, but during the reception all the song was Bataknese. And also, since Bataknese was renowned as tribe that really love to sing, of course the groom families were alternately singing. A combination between two tribe in Indonesia within one event. lol 

And in the end of the month, was my last day in the current company.

New place, new friends, new company those new things starting what I would had in April.

Having subordinate that really young but surprisingly quite innocent, compared to the usual people among their ages. Having an experienced when my friend was also my boss.

Meeting the old friends still be my favorite events along the months.

And also ending up the months with short trip to Bandung with the favorite couple during long weekend.

And yes, luckily we're going with usual team, since going to Bandung on the long weekend was a total nightmare. The traffic was really really bad just like in Jakarta.  

Starting May while in Bandung, we chose to go to Tebing Keraton. Actually we just dont know what to do in Bandung since it's only a random runaway trip. 

I met with the random guy in this month. Quite an April Mop since he's really hard to meet with. Also informed him what will happen in the next couple months.

Since it's near Ramadhan season, for the first time Sean joined me and my Mom to go to my late father hometown to visit his grave. We went to Pangandaran before going back to Jakarta and trapped in the traffic jam. 12 hours on the road trip made me cranky.

As the first day of Ramadhan came, I spend the first breakfasting with Sean's Family.

(thou I havent fasting yet)

June full of breakfasting. Yeah, it's fasting month so as usual we have a lot of breakfasting here and there.

Also my friend's getting married after Lebaran then she just gave the cloth during breakfasting moment.

Short-term LDR with him. Since he's going back to his hometown while I'm staying here.

Usual routine on Lebaran with Family.

And then since I'm starving for trip, I randomly went to Cirebon. Booking the train on Friday for going on Saturday. Short random trip with Sekar and my colleagues. lol

Last but not least, my friend's wedding.

Wont say much on it anyway. lol

August was my month and appeared to be my favorite birthday so far.

Despite of starting the age of head 3, I'm blessed with the caring people around me.

Eventhough this month starting with a resignation one of the team member, but finally I have the company trip to Thailand. (and yes, finally I went to Thailand.lol)

Despite of am really enjoyed spending the time with the team, am not really enjoyed this trip. We spent most of the time in the Bus and in road trip since we have two different city from Bangkok to Hua Hin, using land road which spent like more than 5 hours.

And apparently am not really like Thailand foods.

I love the Mango sticky rice and Durian, but am having stomachache for like, almost all the time.

But the most dope food was within our way from Hua Hin to Bangkok. Seafood for life. LOL 

Ending the month with my birthday, I got surprised with my oh-not-so-romantic-boyfriend.

Starting the day with full decor in my table from my teammates, suddenly a bucket of flower arrived for me. Not showing the name, but only from special one. Who else?

And ending my day with a proposal for me to my Mom. 😍

(well, actually he already proposed me way months before, but I never though he would do it on my birthday)

Starting September still with my birthday theme. Got another surprise from my best friends and also from the best couple💕.

After that having quick met up with my ex-client, the one and only client whom became friends.

And since we're started to craving for any vitamin sea. Mas Bayu has idea of going to Lampung (like, again?) but fortunately this time we went to different spot. He found out about Wayang Island, that in photo looking just like Wayag Island, Papua. (details on here: Another side of Lampung).

October coming with,, new dramas in new office. But can survive with the amazing teams. Girls power indeed.

Since Sean already proposed me to my mom, so we're planning to have the engagement during his birthday. But apparently we're bad at planning, more into deadliner. Especially him.

Additionally, we're also planning to have annual trip right after the engagement. And the destination was not yet confirmed until like, two weeks before the date.

So, yeah, this's a stressful and hectic months. Even Sean got sick like, few days before the engagement day,also, with additional drama coming in.

But also the happiest and amazing month.

And the destination was, amazingly beautiful.

Finally we're going to the East Indonesia, Kei islands in Maluku.

Very, berry, recommended.💓

November can be seen as, bonding time.

Bonding time with him, and especially with the team.

On random weekend, we went to Dago Village, Bandung. But mostly do nothing than just playing trick games and swimming (not to mention shopping).

Then went to Facebook ID HQ to get certification.

Starting this month with my Mom's birthday..

December also full of separation month.

One of my ex boss, the most Baper and captious person, in previous company was moved to Shanghai. So I went to met him and also my ex colleagues.

Then my colleague moved to my previous company (how agency life is..)

I got really really bad diarrhea that for the first time need to get infused in emergency room, after like, decades, never got any infused and injection. And yes, he accompanied me during my sickness.

The last but not least was, meeting with Mr. Brymon before this year end. How he want to help me for invitation design. Hopefully not PHP yaaa...

There you go for 2017.

Welcoming 2018 with.. Rush month? lol

Ja Ne